When I was in junior high school, fifth grade, just after my girlfriend of three years died, vulnerable, alone, afraid, I was sexually assaulted by guys in both the boys’ bathroom and locker room.
There was no God to rescue me from the assault.
From that moment on, I was firmly an atheist, trusted no one, and feared intimacy.
When younger, preschool on up, my father beat me until I passed out, beginning me on the path of atheism, no deus ex machina, creating a barrier between me and the rest of the world that lasts until today.
Trust no one, especially when alone together, has been my modus operandi from a young age.
Assault can come and probably will come from your closest friends and family.
Build masks, layers upon layers of them, that you can let others remove for you, hoping they’ll find and heal the real you.
Learn to lie to yourself that one day you’ll be okay — become a good if not great storyteller in the process.
Understand that life sucks but suck it up, buckle up, batten down, and pretend to be the happiest, most serene, meditative guy on Planet Earth who just happens to want to leave this godforsaken planet and live free from humans on Mars.
No longer will I keep this private, sharing only with my closest friends that i was raped by a guy in high school.
For creatures who’ve build amazing civilisations, we’re still brutes who will satisfy their sexual cravings with anything that moves.
I fear guys in general.
Every gal I don’t know what to do but treat them as equals, aware that many of them have been beaten and raped by guys.
The few women who somehow found their way through the outer walls of my thoughts and I let them seduce me found my body physically fit, my caring, sensual foreplay arousing and my average six-inch erection sexually satisfying; all but one of them (my wife) broke up with me because they said I was too nice of a guy and too smart for them, freeing me to find a nice, smart, life companion, especially the one I kept comparing them to (my wife).
I met my wife at summer church camp the year after my girlfriend died and was first sexually assaulted by guys. There wasn’t an ounce of sexual interest emanating from my wife. She was a classic nerd, genderless, picked last to play dodgeball, sarcastic to guys in general.
I couldn’t help but find her attractive in a life frirndship sort of way.
But I burn with sexual desire, much more than my wife wants to share, putting me in the awkward situation where she won’t be intimate with me as often as I like and I’m afraid to approach anyone else.
C’est la vie.
Life goes on.
I’ll do my best to interact with humans despite my fear of most of them.
I’ll continue to pretend to be Mr. Happy, giving hope to others when I have no hope for myself.