Talking Sister Rosetta Tharpe with one friend, capacitors with another, and how to properly brew Piper & Leaf branded tea with a third.
All within the greater community connection that is dancing.
Yes, dancing has connected me to the following, at the least:
- Oil change discounts
- Barcode readers
- Weekly social gatherings
- Outdoor photography with friends
- LGBT rights
- Rocket/missile engineering/engineering in general
- Juggling multiple jobs
- Local Maker movements
- Online roleplaying/multiplayer gaming
- Massage/physical therapy
- Haunted buildings/locations
- Multiple emotional/mental conditions (depression/bipolar/dissociative/schizophrenic, etc.)
- Traveling for weekend dance competitions (not unlike car racing, gymnastics, tennis, etc.)
- Local art communities
- Municipal growth planning
- Extraterrestrial exploration/colonisation
- Greater exposure to different music genres
- Polyamorous relationship management skills
- Watching young people expand their talents into other fields
- Watching people 40 and older rediscover the simple joys of living
- The international language of dance overcoming all socioeconomic sub/cultural barriers
In times past, I spent Sunday mornings meditating on a subject or two, often asking more questions than reaching conclusions, setting up thought trails to explore the rest of the artificial seven-day block we call a week (trying living without a watch or calendar and see if you recognise a week; you might tune yourself into periods of a day and a lunar month but will you feel a week go by if there are no specific days you need to do anything?).
My latest electronic project has turned into the next evolution of the personal care chair, a seating device that senses your posture, wrapping itself around your torso and gently correcting your posture, working pressure points to ease muscle/ligament/tendon pain, keeping you alert when you need it and reminding you to relax occasionally, as well as push you up to exercise your body, tied as it is to your fitness tracking device (smartwatch, phone, wristworn activity tracker, etc.).
I started physical therapy recently to work my upper body, hoping to build muscle and bone mass in an effort to stop the bouts of vertigo my general practitioner/primary care physician believes is caused by pinched nerves in my neck/spinal column.
One of the physical therapists I also met through dancing.
Is there anything anymore in my life that isn’t related to dancing?
We live on a small planet, third cooling molten rock mass from the Sun, so I know better than to feel or act shocked that we humans connect through common interests.
Yet the child in me enjoys amazement and awe.
The teenage boy in me enjoys his own amazement and awe that is kept at bay for no other reason than I am what I am, an awkward nerd whose looks, age and ability to deflect people away from the real me through the art of conversation gets tiring after a while.
Sometimes I wonder why I carry an eclectic set of social data in my thoughts from which I can parse sentence structure and make sense in general conversation whether I know what I’m talking about or just am interesting enough that people ignore my ignorance, inferring from the few words I blurt/write that I know more than I do.
The wisdom of aging has its advantages.
Time was when I wished I was wise enough to seek wealth.
Then the training of my youth kicked in, driving me back to the monkhood for which I was destined.
I don’t know how to live in two worlds and the confusion has clouded my weekly meditative writing.
Two worlds, one which is the monkhood with my marriage that I gladly enjoyed for ten years, the second is the sexual attraction infused in dancing that counteracts my celibate marriage and draws me to see human bodies in a way that constantly confuses me since the nerd in me has no experience seeking out sexual relationships with others.
The denial of sex with others has fueled my creativity for decades, including writing and electronic gadget construction.
Dancing fuels my writing but takes away from my laboratory time.
At my age, 55+ years, and in semi-retirement, working for a local nonprofit, what or who am I?
Does anything matter anymore — labels, symbols, philosophical stances, subcultural beliefs?
The child in me and the future geriatric self wait for an answer that may not exist.
I return to the mantra that I do not exist, therefore I am not important.
I am at peace in my thoughts.
That much I know.
At my age, that’s all that matters.
I spend the day with my wife, give her the attention she seeks from her life partner, a person who lets me be me as long as she feels important (the primary person in my life), a person who feeds me and clothes me, for the most part taking care of me and my health.
What else am I to do because I don’t know how to care for myself?
I sit here and write, that much I know about feeling peaceful.
Everything else is just random interaction in the connectedness of the dance world.
I need not find patterns where they don’t exist.
I need not project the future in hopes of saving our species from global destruction.
I will die soon enough, might as well remain as peaceful as I have in the past, enjoy the ride and not question the beneficial/detrimental effects of the transportation device.
I no longer struggle with who I am.
My actions speak louder than words.
No need to be confused.
Breathe, eat, sleep.
A set of states of energy in motion which needs no overlay of symbols to justify its existence; i.e., the secret to happiness.
Live and let others live/die as they please, interference from me unnecessary.
[On a side note, I wonder if the Meclizine and ondansetron, combined with physical therapy easing decades of pain, have led to this new calmness in my thoughts…certainly, uncertainty about my vertigo and the piercing pain in my neck for 40 years have made me feel like I’ve always been running away from something; now that I have a solution, I don’t need to run away anymore, no need to pretend to be someone else in order to hide the real physical pain that has defined me since high school, from which I used to think there was no escape.]